This article is out of discussion on a topic ‘Fear’ with 2nd year MCA, 3rd year Civil engineering students of SNSCT and others in the past. As a trainer cum counselor I asked them if they are fearful about anything in life. Most of them replied ‘No’ with a big smile on their face. One way I was happy to see that they would like to lead a life without a fear. I pushed them with a question, how do you feel on seeing 100% score on your internal paper? Most of them said in unison, ‘Happy’. Then I raised another question, would they work hard to keep that expectation intact in the next internal examination? Most of them nodded their head. This seemed to have set a tone of knowing the fear. Then I asked them, what would happen incase some of don’t make it? I could see mixed facial reactions. Next I asked them, what are you trying to guard yourself on realising fear exists? The unison was broken into few reacting to it, for example, they were not afraid but worrying about the others reactions (parents, peers and teachers expectations) on their uneven performance. On hearing patiently I asked them, why do you worry incase there you aren’t afraid? There enthusiasms seemed to die off with probing. After a moment of silence, I asked them, if they are not sure on dealing with it? They nodded in unison.
I asked with if they could learn to love the problem same way they learnt to love their cent percent marks then its possible to understand, why? This was beginning to reflect for our future discussion.
Is fear a fearful?!